Tuesday, March 31, 2009

middle child syndrome...

This is may be another though one to swallow but I believe it's true...

Recently I have had some complications in my life, mostly it's in my head(I know I've said it before, but it's true....probably because I have been spending a lot of time alone, you'll get it later). But after a few conversations with a few different friends I've come to the realization that I have "Middle Child Syndrome" which is simple enough, right? As the second born of three children, I am the middle child(wow, genius Em!). I looked into a little more and found that, even though it sounds strange there are actually studies about it. While talking to friends I realised I expect them to know me, but I never really give them a chance. I put up "a wall" as one of them said. And it's true, in a way. But at the same time we 'talk' mostly threw instant messaging where messages get mixed up and you read what is being said how YOU want to, so I don't feel like I am being understood all the time...

Anyway, I found this article which I thought was pretty interesting. There are some points that I feel are pretty bang on and there are others that aren't so much...but apparently I was right with my current career choice...see for yourself. Let me know what you think...agree or disagree...

The middle or second born child or children often have the sense of not belonging. They fight to receive attention from parents and others because they feel many times they are being ignored or dubbed off as being the same as another sibling. Being in the middle a child can feel insecure. The middle child often lacks drive and looks for direction from the first born child. Sometimes a middle child feels out of place because they are not over achievers and like to go with the flow of things.
Being a middle child would mean they are loners. They really don’t like to latch on to a person in a relationship, therefore they have trouble keeping one due to lack of interest. Not liking to take the limelight for anything, they are not over achievers and just simply work enough work to get by, and typically that goes with school as well as a career. They are however very artistic and creative. If forced to use abilities they will work well, but do not work well under pressure. They often start several projects but rarely keep focused long enough to finish a project. The best career move for a middle child would be along the lines of using their creative. Going into a writing or journalism career, and into a career that they could freely express themselves would be good. Anything that would have hours that are flexible, and projects that frequently changed would be good for a middle born child. Since relationships are not of high importance to a middle child, often times they are alone. However, the best possible match for a middle child would be a last born.


[And for the record, I'm not "emo", per say, I just have a lot of emotions and am trying to figure it all out, trying to find my place and better understand who I am...I hope I didn't hurt any ones feelings by posting this. I just thought it was interesting.]

2 comments:

  1. that makes lots of sense em ... and look your in luck your best possible match is yours truly!! :) love you em ... this helps me to understand you more too ... you should post more on how you are feeling and whats going on in your head :) xox gen

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  2. WOW.....

    But there is one tidbit of information that I found in researching a few years back (I too have three!)

    1) If you love each child and help them to find their 'special-ness' or what makes them unique and build on that, the middle child can avoid some of these things.....

    You have your hockey....and the Slammers, and the only one who took journalism.

    You have this ease about you...and you are very accomodating, which makes people feel at ease when they're around you...

    :)

    You are kind and funny and talented, and yes, your other siblings may be much the same, but not in the same way....

    I am very happy that my middle child thinks you, another middle child, is not only cool, but is also his friend!

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